Greg Wise on how he and Emma Thompson coped with failed IVF: ‘We hit an existential crisis – she was not a proper woman and I was not a proper man’
Two decades on, the actor remembers the grief and pain of that time “I’m afraid this cycle has not been successful.” Emma and I cannot catch each other’s eye.
- We sit mute in our grief in the silence of the IVF doctor’s office.
- We had undergone many attempts in the years after the birth of our daughter Gaia.
- This is a kind of grief that is often not understood even to be grief at all.
Two decades on, the actor remembers the grief and pain of that time “I’m afraid this cycle has not been successful.” Emma and I cannot catch each other’s eye.
An anticipatory grief – a grief for something that hasn’t yet appeared – a mourning for a possibility, of a longed-for future life to welcome, love and nurture.
And there are no set grief rituals for this – for a child never present – no space in our society to mark, to grieve an actual physical death.
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